Why Poetry Should Not Scare Anyone

This is our National Poetry month. There are many reasons why poetry should not scare anyone. Poetry is full of silent words. Poetry is all about the metaphors, analogies, similes, illusions, disillusions, confusions, contradictions, the big, and all the silent words that we cannot spell out most of the times, especially when one has had enough. Or, you can say that poetry is a bunch of words put together. Whether it was through our music like Rod Stewart Have You Ever Seen The Rain, Phil Collins I wish It Will Rain Now, Me And you in paradise ,  Rumi, Kahlil Gibran, or even Billy Joel when he was ranting about lunatics or The Piano Man, or even when anyone was sharing their moral values. Poetry can also be emotions spilled on a river on cold winter days (that is a metaphor, too). Please  make no mistake about poetry, no one  can save the world if they  don`t have a combination of everything which includes but is not  limited to , sadness, empathy,  anger, isolation, bystander,  humanity, sufferings, illusion, confusion, Hate for injustice, poverty,  Bible, arts, love for children, culture, series of disappointments, honesty, integrity, and most especially conscience. You give what you have and you do not give what you do not have.

For most of us, poetry came before children were born but may be a new thing for you. But for people that have lived their lives in isolation, poetry is a way of life. I have been asked over and over how I made it out of Africa,” and my answer was a combination of everything including calling out on nature, especially rain”. There is something powerful about nature, especially if you grew up in Africa where good things do not just happen, they happen by chance. Nature was there for us to experience and make our own observations and judgment. The things of nature are cheap, they do not cost a dime, and you got to feel them and make your own deductions.

From gift of poetry, I learned that there are only two ways to succeed in life. One is to recognize that no one is prone to suffering,even writing a blog here on  internet has not  spared any of us. Secondly, as a poet, you totally get it that all the goods the world has to offer was originally designed to suite all mankind, yet man made problems, and the obstacles surrounding us can also overshadow its goodness, too.

From sufferings, I totally understand that there are no two ways to be successful in life than to know that life is full of obstacles, and dangers; I do not care how  happy you want to be at all times.

Poetry can speak to us through other poets, from understanding other poets before us; one can equally see that there are two things we were given as gifts. One of them was the strengths and abilities of overcoming obstacles.  Martin Buber was also a great observer and poet who never let fear stop him. In the article

“The Walls Of Distrust and The age of Mistrust,” he was quoted as saying

“he said we had come to a stage where the individual life had been completely gobbled up by politics and that political life now represents a world without any exits and without entry”.

But looking at what is happening today in the world one cannot help but lament. I wrote about the children of Africa, which has become my work that speaks to me. A place where corruption was played over and over. If everyone joins the corrupt wagon, who is going to speak on behalf of the little ones. We cannot all have a wonderful life, someone somewhere can be in a position to use his or her wisdom to lead. Do not allow yourself to be carried by all the things you see that does not make sense. But ask questions at all-time and at any given time. He also talked about a lot of issues befitting humans. But those types of issues were not only relegated to that era but have continued to take us over. Obstacles are part of human endeavors, so we need courage and resiliency to be able to accomplish all that is thrown at us.

There is also the emotional resilience that poetry brings if you listen to the right music or read the right books. Then with knowledge built over the years, you can then build your strength of resilience; therefore, whatever anyone thinks may become assumptions not necessarily how it really was. We were also given the abilities to nurture them for a good fight. But you can never waste your energy fighting a losing war.

Poetry has a way of pulling emotions from the beginning. For example, some children will learn how to express their discomfort early and some may not really have the same opportunity to. Most children can live their lives not knowing where their anger was coming from and where to vent their angers or even where to channel their energies. Knowing exactly what can hinder children from exceeding high, how can we help these children to gain their optimum heights now that we know that there are high hills on the road? It is no more about the education like we have all agreed on, but there was much more to it.

People use prayer as poetry all the time. Some prayers  in  form of Poetry, can serve as a relieve too.

In reality, most introverts can also use poetry to cover their own deficit, reading and expressing their selves can also help them to cure boredom that often plagues them. Poetry can also be a way for people to understand their strengths and limits.


Poetry is a therapy and can be played out on the street. Recently, we saw a guitar man in front of a gas station singing his heart out. I really got what he was doing, but my children did not get it. He was so emotional that his words turned into rap. I was so moved and wished that other children could learn how to express themselves with music instead of engaging in a war. Whether from their parents, society, environment, lack of leadership, and discouragement from all sources. There are series of them; this was also based on what I know to be truthful and facts.

In conclusion, this is just an opinion. It may or may not be truthful. The last thing you will do is to tell people how powerful you are. They will find a way to get you one way or the other. I have noticed and my message is very simple and clear.  But here is the thing that sets poetry apart from everything. You got to feel the rain. Why because it is nature. And it soothes all souls. With poetry you can ask as many questions as you can. Questions like, what will happen if all children can write their own feelings in a piece of paper? What will happen if all poets know how well or how bad internet can be to their creativity? How can we live in peace without so much confusion? How can we get along without dragging on issues that has helped to divide us? Think about ways you can be that exceptional being.

     Rod Stewart vhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2oX2FSv4Rys#aid=P9b3ZEeJKeY

Phil Collins


Thank you so much and Continue to love no matter how difficult or pain it will cost you.. May you continue to shine above all obstacles?




You Can Give Yourself A Gift of Patience

To have patience or not is still an art that has to be mastered. Patience is  what we exhibit in our daily life wherever we are. It takes a lot to be patient whether we understand how it works or not to achieve greatness. One of the early lessons  I learned from reading the voyages of discovery was seeing how tough and impatient some of the early discoveries were. Some ran out of patience before they could make it to their next point of destination, while others like Christopher Columbus waited patiently until he helped to discover America. Part of life is to exhibit patience in everything that we do.

Messages of patience is nothing new; even Isaac Newton said it, “If I have ever made any valuable discoveries , it has been owing more to  patient attention, than to any other talents.”

Patience is  a gift that not everyone possesses. Even people that are gifted naturally often lose it if there is too much pressure coming from the realm.

One of the things I have learned along the way is that the ways in which people process information is different. People work according to their own pace. As patient as anything else, writing is soothing  if it comes naturally too.

One of my best wishes in life is patience. Just like patience, writing comes from the heart; it does not come because someone is teaching  you how to write; if not, I am sure everyone would have  been an outstanding writer. Writing comes with impulse. You can also write what you have experienced in your life. You can equally help people to write their own books too if you so desire. So please take your time, let go of any kind of pressure, and release the impulse.

Patience I found out is hard to come by now. In the world today, we want everything so soon that it conflicts with our daily interactions. We even want it so bad that it conflicts with our moral values. Impatience happens  also when we  run around for the wrong reasons. It is possible too when we follow what is trending and not as one sees it. For me, the only thing that drives me to the parts unknown is my inability to understand all the mind boggling with technology. I will accept that it has made me to look for help. My biggest pride if you know me is my ability to have patience. There is no way an impatient person will continue to learn what he or she is struggling with; most times, people do not have time to wait.

Talking about patience, if you have not told a child  to stop seven times; evidently too you may not make sense of what it takes to be patient with children; if you doubt that too “why do some babysitters eventually wind up in jail?. Not because they  do not have the type of patience you and I have, but patience has a lot to do with impulses. Dictionary defines it as an impelling force. A sudden wish or urge that prompts an unpremeditated act or feeling.

Talking about impatience, a friend of ours left his practice to go and teach a lecture on the topic  of patience to some college students. What drove him to do that became a puzzle not until everyone knew that he was going to jail the next day.

By going to jail, that means he will leave his practice for a while. As a doctor his duty is to protect lives, but on this day, he  ran out of  patience and accidentally hurt a passerby. He was speeding; he knew that he could have slowed down but wasn`t thinking until the accident happened. According to him, he would do anything to take that day back. He thought that the pain of going to jail especially when one has not condition him or herself  to the jail environment can become very unsettling.

I met a young girl recently who told me that she was so impatient with her mother that she decided to move out of her home. While on her own she found out that she will need extra money to pay her rent. From paying her rent, she dropped out of school. Yet she has not finished. Like she said Nov 9th would have being 6 years she dropped out of school. To her, the problem has just begun. She wished she could have waited to complete her studies. Life is a roller coaster if you believe in it. I said, “How can you get your life back? What will it take you to change your life?”

Effects of Impatience

  1. When we are impatient, it changes how we process information. I do not know about you, but whenever I become anxious or impatient, it affects the ways I think. Sometimes I have learned to shut down my own computer and take a long walk or fall asleep.
  2. When we are impatient, it keeps us moving in a fast direction. For example, you will be doing everything, yet you are not achieving anything.
  3. When we are impatient, it makes things harder than they seem. For example, children are becoming so impatient with their parents that they are moving in with their friends. Impatience creates anxiety that normally will not be there. Impatience gives us an unplanned schedule that we will later regret

1 Impacts of Patience

2 But with patience, we can weigh-in other options and choose from the best.

3 With patience, we can learn new things and see how it goes.

4 With patience we may find mistakes along the way, especially in our relationships.

5 With patience we can finish our classes and wait for a better job. I encourage you to be patient in all the things you do.  Without patience, one may go the wrong way at the wrong time,

Let the world be at peace now; the only place we will only know. Let us  create words that keep us at peace and not at war, a place where no human can falter. But a world where every soul will flourish, may you inspire someone today. May your voices create peace in the universe.

Women`s Roles Now And Beyond Part 1

Five Reasons You Should Care And Understand The Uncertainties That Still looms.


 It is so liberating to live in reality. It is equally appealing when you interact with other women who had experience similar issues. This is 2014, you should expect that we are no longer in the 50s; we are liberated to a core, but wait a second. Women’s problem is everyone’s problem and should concern you too.

 In reality, what determines our children’s well being or assumed success rate was based on many factors. Factors like how well off their parents are, how traditional or untraditional they were. You can also put good environment into the equation, but things are not always the same for example, if you take their fathers away, most children will spend a big chunk of their childhood with their mums preferably. But what happens when the mother is not around? Then the next alternative even closest to mum will be grandmother. Yes women`s role as women are everlasting, It does not have an end. Women’s role therefore factors more in our children`s life. Women are not afraid to get into argument with their children especially when there was need for it . Grandmothers try their best too, but I would rather advocate for a disciplined dad to take care of the children in a special circumstances than a soft grandmother who will always give them a  million reasons why they should drop out of school early. When there is no discipline in the house, children tend to do whatever they want which will still come back and haunt them including those around them.

 The question still remain, how many grandmothers are ready for the unexpected? How many are educated to handle early child development knowing that if  a child misses any part of that early stage of development, it would be hard to recover? For example, my grandmother was not educated. I was eager to learn, but I never did my homework. If only my grandmother was educated, I would lament. I would have been in a better place now.

 Yet sadly, according to Population Record Bureau, growing numbers of children in the United States are living with a grandparent.They confirmed that in 2010, about one in 14 U.S. children (7 percent) lived in a household headed by a grandparent—for a total of 5.4 million children, up from 4.7 million in 2005.  But here is the reason why women`s problems should concern us even if they are grandmothers helping out.

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  1 First the job that women do cannot be underestimated. Without women, whether they are our mothers or grandmothers, many children will still be in poverty .As someone who grew up with her grandmother in a poor neighborhood in Africa, I saw a lot of potential in women that would have helped them and their children, but during those times, women had no opportunities to help neither themselves nor their children. They were less educated and only became farmers. But the progresses that women have made over the years are remarkable. Yet women`s struggles are still on the rise. Today, women are still poor and that affects everything. But even with the standard of education we have now, there are still sets backs that is why women`s problems should be given full attention.

The problem may not even be education anymore but how do we transition from A to B without obstacles like finding a perfect schedule, or getting into a high skilled jobs without so many eyes rolling, or take for instance a woman who has three children and thinking about going to Iraq or even Africa to cover a project; can she just wake up and go? or will it take months for her to prepare. Or can anyone imagine a mother living the house whenever she wants without worrying about her children. But all this issues can never be an issue for any man regardless of how insignificant his job is. But to say there is competition with men is to do injustice to them since their roles are different from our, but as a woman, I guess something got to give. I have faced more challenges recently than I ever thought otherwise.

As a big advocate for education we can scream about education for our young girls. Yes, educate more girls early is a good way no doubt about it, but what happens after the education might shock you. So there is still this uncertainty surrounding us.


It is sad to think that women’s problems are getting better but not so fast. As we are still unable to transition very well from the old accustomed roles; cooking, dish washing, laundries, and making crafts.I  never knew I will be discussing this. The worst is that our own children. Are we preparing them for those roles which will come back and haunt them one way or another? Grade three elementary cooking book is not going to do it as my daughter had just found out. Unless they chose not to be married like the people in the medieval period are now accustom to.  Throughout this month, we will be looking at the improvements that women have made over the years, and the areas that we still need improvement. This month with the help of the Clinton Global initiative, we will be following facts. In as much as I hate to campaign for women’s role in the society, but we cannot help now to see how our roles are changing so fast. How can we comfortably say what we are doing, who we are, and where we want to go without getting some mixed signals? Why are males still preferred when hiring for a job. Can we have it both ways without some obstacles?

This post will be so long; therefore I have reduced it to 1 point per a page. Thanks for understanding.

Only few people can write poetry and avoid topics like children, politics, women, and hard ship.  I feel depress when someone suggested that because I talk politics, children, and religion therefore I get confuse. The truth is that my life will not be complete if not for all the experiences I had as child growing up observing disaster after disaster, yet I was smiling. Little did I know that those memories will come back to haunt me. I got involve with the bible and then fell in love with poetry because I was able to express my feelings without someday saying anything about it.

Next time I will look into how education is seriously affecting us the good and the bad. Stay tuned.

In another article : Google aims to change under representation of women in ‘Doodles’http://www.prdaily.com/Main/Articles/16220.aspx#

You can also read: Ten ways The Global initiatives is increasing opportunities for women and


Note: What bothers me more than anything I have experienced here is how people attach every honest opinion to race.

For The love Of History The Wedding

What are you reading? What type of books do you like to read? Although Black History month has ended today, still  these two revolutionaries made history during Harlem Renaissance.

Harlem Renaissance was a movement that started in 1920s. It was an African American culture, particularly in the creative arts of that period. It later became one of the most influential movements in African American history. It created works for a lot of African American writers that had no opportunities then. Dorothy  contributed to the writing of that movement, yet it took  her years to write her  first novel.

Her book became  a masterpiece which called for a  celebration  due to many years it took to publish the book ( 26years). The Wedding was about people, her family, married life, love, color, and how race became an integral part of that novel. How race interfered in everything. Her determination to write after many failures blew my heart. I read her book in a comparative literature class about six years ago. Her determination to publish that book gained her attention. She was a timeless author whose work was admired by her co-authors Langston Hughes  who once called her “A student of human race”.Why do professors incorporate people like her in literature? They do so because people can learn from their strengths.

Dorothy West

W EB, Du Bois made history by becoming the first African America to earn a PhD from Harvard. He fought for  black culture, for  education and most especially for people to continuously aspire higher. He wrote many proses and poems. He created arts for his people. .

Sometimes, I worry about history. I worry also about those who intentionally misunderstood what history is all about. Our work is always a working process. Every timeless work of arts, takes time. Now to write a book or not to write a book is a decision one has to go through. Why is it difficult to produce a book?  A book is not about show and tell as most people will tell you. If I quote Martin Buber “a book may die before it gets to its destination”. You never know where a book will come alive. This was based on his  observations with his many  books. Most timeless books may or may not get attention they deserve.

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Secondly, a book may or may not have a purpose yet it will find a way to fulfill those purposes. Take Dorothy’s book for instance, the Wedding was about her family, marrying outside her race. From all indication, we also learned that race is not a cultural thing but a human thing. People will always look at you differently as long as you are different from them. I worry about all the war on race. One of the things I had never carried on my sleeve and I am sure you do not carry was how people see race. It takes away all we are, who we are, and why we are here on earth. In Dorothy`s world, we cannot help but ask the question “can people escape all the forces that had followed them all their lives?  Must something always had  to remind us about race? Of course yes!Can we escape been called out it either way. Are we directing our children in the right way?

Secondly, her book reminds us that it does not matter how many years it took to produce a book, just write.  A book is a book regardless. Thanks for reminding us that race is a human thing. We cannot escape it. History lives on. This is also an opportunity to say thank you to all of you that have opened door for me; whether through a book, or webinar or all the stuff that matters to me. I hope we continue to work in harmony .I am still a working progress. I still put everything into  considerations. Thank you all. Please if you want to know more about  the book feel free to let me know.

For all of you who have continued to seek peace
For making our  work easier.
Thanks for all that you do to create peace.
We continue to live because of all they have done.

A Writers Role According To Achebe

A Writers Role especially African`s writers according to Achebe

Things Fall Apart ...we are acknowledging writers who have paved the way for Africans  literature.

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In celebrating African-American month, one cannot read our history or understand our fights without looking at it through the eyes of some of our revolutionaries and authors. The role of a writer should not be underestimated. This writer`s role plays many function in educating about the responsibility of attaching human values through his or her work. The job of a novelist is to help people see dangers that normally would not have been brought to people’s attention. The ability for an African writer to see, feel, hear, and still maintain a peaceful composure should  be admired by all people.

Writing is a testimony as ‘Things Fall Apart’ taught us; if you did not document your work, and get credit for it, it never happened. The power of words cannot be ignored as poetry has become a bridge to the people’s hearts. The words in Achebe`s poetry have a way of connecting with the people as his other works showed .And as Rita Dove rightly said, “Every town needs it poet”.

Achebe was born in the Village of Ogidi, a few miles from Onitsha in Nigeria. He became one of the first students to graduate from the University College Ibadan in 1953. Like many authors, Achebe was to study medicine but was attracted to the liberal arts which lead him to read English literature. As a visionary, he did so many good things that helped put him in a right path to success. His upbringing helped him; as he credited his early success to his Ibo community with a great leadership role. He benefited from the love and caring people in his community.

His novel became a story with a universal appeal. According to Steven H. Gale, part of the value and appeal of this novel laid in Achebe detailing the everyday life of the nine villages in Nigeria, and   Umofia in particular, in what would become the nation of Nigeria, in the days immediately before the coming of the white man (Gale).

Talking about learning:Things Fall Apart’ exposes the danger, fear, and the resistance that civilization brought to the people of Nigeria. The novel focused its roots on the conflicts and tensions within the Ibo society; as well as, changes that were introduced by colonial rule and Christianity. Achebe had fun as he was narrating the resistance that followed it.

As a learner, you can learn from others that life is not really what it seems. In Things Fall Apart, the main star of the story Okonkwo became a major character that brought honor to his community. He became a renowned macho man yet, his life according to the narrator was dominated by his “fear of failure and of weaknesses”. The book maintained its dignity yet was able to narrate a life of difficulties, pain, and sorrow that people went through.

Throughout the novel, Achebe played different roles but the most obvious role was his role,

as a teacher. Achebe believes that the role of a novelist is to teach. In his own word

, “the writer cannot be excused from the task of re-educating and re-generation that must be done. In fact he should march right in front. For he is after all – as Ezekiel Mphahele says in his African Image-the sensitive point in his community “. (Gale 74)

Through this book, readers understood what it means to live in fear. From reading, they saw that change was hard but it can also be a good thing if one gives it a chance.

Adding values, Achebe spoke widely on what he considers to be the role of a writer and in particular, the responsibilities of an African writer.

“I believe that the writer should be concerned with the question of human values” As a novelist, Achebe attempts to educate his readers, to expose them to “human values” (Gale)

As a re-teller :One of the important aspects of Achebe`s book was the retelling of the story so that the younger generation could still see it as it was in those days.

Life in Nigeria would have been different if not for the important lesson everyone learned from ‘Things Fall Apart.’ The book brought him fame, favor, and admiration from all over the world that he would not have had otherwise. The book reiterated the importance of embracing change, especially the ones we could not change.

Through his book, most people realize that spoken words are different from writing. Most importantly,before’Things Fall Apart’, things were already complicated in Nigeria. For Achebe to have been so creative with that title within that period of turmoil portrayed everything. It meant so much to see how things began to unravel.

Another role he bestowed on African writers is to educate. Every growing child needs good educators. They need good role models to help and guide them. But the task of educating his fellow Africans is a great challenge too as he later found out.

According to him,

 “It is inconceivable to me that a serious writer could stand aside from this debate or to be indifferent to this argument which calls his full humanity in question. For me, at any rate there is clear duty to make a statement. This is my answer to those who say that a writer should be writing about contemporary issues- about politics in 1964 , about city life, about the last coup d’état. Of course, these are all legitimate themes for the writer but as far as I am concerned the fundamental theme must first be disposed of. This theme, put quite simply, is that African people did not hear of culture for their first time from Europeans; that their societies were not mindless but frequently had a philosophy of great depth and value and beauty, that they had poetry and, above all, they had dignity. It is this dignity that many African people all but lost during the colonial period, and it is this that they must now regain. The worst thing that can happen to any people is the loss of their dignity and self-respect. The writer’s duty is to help them regain it by showing them in human terms what happened to them, what they lost….” (Gale 75)

But in all circumstances a writer should never lose his credibility and integrity.

Another role expected from African writers  is to maintain integrity. As a  writer, it is easy to get caught up with what people want to hear. By doing so, one can mix up wrong facts and ideas which can also take a writer a way from honesty that writing requires.  To Achebe,  African writer has a role of maintaining integrity and trustworthy which is seen in the writing.

In Achebe`s world,

“The question is how does a writer re-create this past? Quite clearly there is a strong temptation to select only those facts that will flatter him. If he succumbs he will have branded himself as an untrustworthy witness. But it is not only his personal integrity as an artist which is involved. The credibility of the world he is attempting to recreate will be called to question and he will defeat his own purpose. If he is suspected of glossing over inconvenient facts. We cannot pretend that our past was long, Technicolor idyll. We have to admit that like other people`s past ours had its good as well as-its bad sides”. (Gale77)

My second blog was titled Our Lives As Readers. It was based on the things I read as a child in Africa. For those of you who read the blog that is where it all began; it brought back memories that a good book is supposed to. My own pains introduced me to literature early on in life. Probably poetry opened the door for me.

In life, one cannot be a profound leader if one does not read books. In other words, how can you retell a story if you have not read one yourself? Or how can you write one if you do not read books yourself? One of the most important things anyone can do for children is to introduce them to books early on . It is so easy to get caught up in what is trending, things that those children may not need anyway. Without our leaders we will have no future and our duty now is to continue to aspire higher, and never settle from things that will not help us.

It is with great honor to look at all the role models : Alice walker, W.E. B Du Bois, Maya Angelou , Anne Moody, Frederick Douglass, Langston Hughes and so many other  writers  that I could not name . We thank them for establishing the way for all of us. We have come to embrace them especially during this black history month.

The great Chinua Achebe was the man who gave Africa a voice

By Ellah  Wakatama Allfrey

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Living On Memory

Happy Valentine’s Day!

There`s a saying that says whenever one woke up is his or her morning. Valentine’s day is over but will still go on until the end of the weekend if I am not mistaken. I love the word Valentine as it means so much to so many people of different ages, young adults and children.


For older adults it may mean real love followed by a proposal. A love story about a boy meets a girl and fell in love on a valentines day and they got married. The end. For others, it may mean the exchange of gifts like flowers,or going to their favorite restaurant or playing golf in a very cool place.

For some  it may mean disappointment. For example, I bought a product that I was suppose to use for my blog today, but I  could not get it to work.

A perfect valentine would have been to showcase my new skill,the art that I have been learning recently. But I was exhausted trying to put it together to no avail . I spent an extra thirty minutes before  realizing it was not going to work regardless of how hard  I tried. It was funny because I had planned this for a week, and now to see it was not working . It is funny  how our lives revolve around our work.

I learned  an important lesson that not all products work the same. Some products do specific jobs regardless of how we try to move them around.

I also learned that some people know how to protect their works on internet. For example when I copy and paste, the whole website where I copied it from followed me which is strange.

Secondly, Just like adults, valentines can mean so many things for children. For example, in my daughter`s  class  party today , their ideal valentine is the decorated cookies and the icing. All the candies, the pizzas, the juice boxes and the goody bags. Looking at how happy they were, none of them  could care less about all the other things that we  adults worry about.

Some kids ate more than two pizzas and you will perhaps be wondering what  an adult  would have done  in this situation especially if that person  was  in love . That took me back to 20 years ago in a similar situation that my stomach refused food because I was overjoyed. But the following year same time same occasion I ate because  all I have to be bothered about was food .

For the majority of the children it is about the color of the sprinkles, pink, red, white, and one can see their eyes sparkles as we sprayed more sprinkles.

Valentine has been about  memories.

As a young girl growing up with many questions, I wrote so many love letters for my friends. What made it remarkable was  the memories. Both the good, the bad, and the ugly still lives with me. Everything I knew about the  missing cards was part of  the memories.  In those days  a girl spends all her money to buy, a card  just to  realize that the man she was dating has a wife who lives far away and had never told her . But please do not let that discourage you, for it is apart of life.

I could have gone to bed today without worrying about this special day,  but I should not have ignored it because I know so many of my readers and those I read that are so much into Valentine’s day.

To ignore this day is to ignore why we are here on earth. Love is what makes the world merrier.

Recently, I have been loved more than ever in my life. The people have shown me what love means. Their dedication, caring, and kindness has made it so hard for me to  disappear. I am not so good with emotion when it comes to  expressions of love .

But please from the bottom of my heart, thank you for all that you do. You are an inspiration to me and others . Words cannot express what your kindness means to me. I wish you a very Happy Valentine’s Day.


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A Year In Review; So Blue And Vibrant

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A wonderful blog year does not just happen; it takes good readers, anonymous readers, and well-wishers to have a joyful blog year. Thank you all for standing by me. A year full of ups and downs.  The year 2013 was a very intriguing year in my life. A lot happened both here on the internet and in the real world. In real life, it was understandable. I work with real people in real life .I was used to my schedule. I know when, how, and where. I cannot say I was living a distracted life that I was not counting on every minute spent. But there is so much we cannot see even when we try to, but not to compare what has happened here on the internet, it is more about the questions.

What have you learned? What will you take away from this year? It’s hard not to think about this year and how fast it went. It is hard not to think about how spellbinding this place was for probably the first-year bloggers. What the  internet has taught us, probably one will say uncountable, many, too much, eye-opening, unbelievable, shocking, and the list goes on and on. Now you know about Tumblr posts, content writers, innovators, Innovation, and entrepreneurs which are the most intriguing of all. Finally can one be an introvert and an extrovert at the same?

I really  felt shot in some ways, If you felt a little bit of disappointment, too, you are not alone. According to my 5 year old daughter, “Mummy, I wish you give all that you promise sometimes. I wish you give more than you said you are going to. You know why I do not make a deal with you because you never keep your promises sometimes.” Well, Ozi, I hate to agree with you. But I had to agree with her, and depending on the circumstances, she was right.

But here is the deal; I wish I can apologize to everyone listening.  But I ran into so many problems. The Internet really opened my eyes. I wish this place were a little more private. I wish I had a better form of arts and crafts in blogging. I wish I had money to do a lot here. I wish I know how to raise money without feeling guilty about it.

I wish I had stayed here in my blog. I wish I had an easy route. I wish I knew where I was in the  first three months I started blogging. I wish I knew that I was beyond the United States of America.

But there is something that went beyond my scope of comprehension. There was much that I could not handle, and most especially, I did not know that it would require some financial obligations on my part, which I was not ready for.

I am still trying to recover from the word  innovation and entrepreneurs. That was the biggest confusion of all. probably Martin Buber would have screamed at all of these. I apologize to you if you ever felt like  my own daughter feels too. She was frustrated and vowed never to make a deal with me. But after I apologized with so much explanation, she gets it now. I hope you too understand.

Emphasis: I cannot say I was living a distracted life that I was not counting on every minute spent. But there is so much you cannot see even when you have tried. There was so much beneath the surface.

I wish you were here,

I wish you could have seen what I went through.

It was hard to think about it.

It was so hard to even explain it to anyone.

I know I felt a little bit short to some people.  But considering all circumstances, I gave myself B+++ believe me, it was not intentional. I tried to accommodate everyone; I honestly do. But it is over now and I cannot do so much. No explanation can do it, Just write. I will watch out before I say what I am going to do next time. In the end, I thank you with all my heart.

In the end I will say this:

I do`nt think anger is a passionate thing, but if we can take out time to know how others are faring; I think the world  will be a wonderful place to be. I write to express fear.

Sometimes you want to wake up believing that the earth’s shape is spherical. The people in it are spearheaded. The earth surroundings are reachable, but  no!,  what you get is an earthbound that is flat and fails to accommodate.  I was speaking from experience too.

On my observation: I want to wish that everything is okay. I can sense  things are getting worse. There is an honest truth that people do not want to hear, and they are not ready to accept it. This is from a pessimist perception.

On bringing changes: It is hard to change people; it is even hard to tell them what to do, but it would be nice if there is an honest discussion around, but unfortunately, we are wrong; you are right, and I can see that,  I get it.

When I think about how far I have come, the years it took me, with so much hard work put into it, to know that most children are far beyond, not putting any efforts and moving around so empty makes me to worry about their world. How do things get to this point I keep wondering. I will continue to express that fear.

This end of the year has touched me more than any other time in my life. I realized too that I could have helped a lot of kids financially. I missed the opportunity to help them even my own children had to suffer financial help too. I never knew how things work on Web, I finally realized that when all the envelopes started showing up in my mail box. I am so sorry; I promise that it will never happen again.

Building a strong, and healthy environment is what I envisioned for. learning is what I clam for. I will continue to learn. It has been an amazing year yet the most disturbed transition I have ever experience. In the end, I have a blue, gloomy and vibrant year of blogging. How can you help me here? How did your own year went?. What can I do to improve?. Thank you for making my blog what it has come to be. Happy new year in Advance.

Relating To A Cause: How I learned The Full Meaning Of CHristmas.

Today I read an article from Hbr,the article to Find Happiness forget About passionhttp://blogs.hbr.org/2012/01/to-find-happiness-forget-bout/

The article gave insight on ways young leaders can find their true passion, According to the article there are lots of big problems to go by; the article listed some of the challenges facing the world today, but ended up saying, If you’re a young leader and you haven’t articulated this yet, here are some things you can do.

In the hbr article, one of the ways is to Look into problems that affect you in a very personal way.

 There is joy attach to the traditional Christmas celebration.Some families have kept same tradition for years. whether it is a family baking cookies  or special cooking, family tradition is something  people can relate to. But for some, they may have experienced it differently.  I was looking at the article and could relate to one personal problem that affected me personally and can lead to my championing such a cause.  

I love it when I read about family traditions. However, Christmas was never a happy time for us  growing up,  for some reason we were totally displaced growing up. I wrote about home recently.  I wish people would read to understand what displacement does to children. Displacement, whether from moving, war, unexpected turn of events, can be harmful to a growing child.

One of my friends’ and a fellow blogger wrote about Christmas recently, Diane wrote Let me begin by saying I do love the Christmas season with all of it`s meanings . http://hometogo232.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/christmas-some-memories/#respo

Unlike Diane who had enjoyed a particular family tradition on  every Christmas:  for me, Christmas growing up was a nightmare. As I get older too I find it difficult to relate to it .When I think about home, I became so afraid especially during this time of the year. During this time in Africa, there is no water. Apart from that, it is also cold, and it never felt good especially if you have no mother. I always felt the need to run away from it all especially when you live in a step family home that do not know how to work together.

Recently I spent hours speaking to my sister who will never visit home especially now that our father had passed away. I felt really sad for her and her children. I wish she is here where anyone can blend in.  I am interested in such a cause because I know firsthand what a disorganized home can do to a child.

Another day another displaced person. Two weeks ago, I met a girl down here in my state; she had left her home state of Ohio . She was running away from what she had known all her life, moving from home to home. Two weeks before Christmas, she and her daughter were displaced again bringing back such a horrible memory. I spent weeks driving them everywhere, making sure that they never felt miserable in a strange land. The girl remembered her initial problems and we both could relate to that. But unlike me, she channeled all her anger to people especially her family members. But I was so lucky because I had wonderful uncles who were really cordial and played fatherly roles to us. The reality is that when tragedy happens,you may find wonderful family members who will love you as their own children; they will give you the same training they would give to their own children.

 Not having a stable home does affect children. I believe all problems come from homes. I also realized that due to cultural differences, this project will not mean so much because people are different, and cultural guidelines are different.   From what Jonah said, her family members fought over benefits instead of doing what was right for him and his brothers. In Africa, divorce and death do not make a difference on how children were trained.  But what happens when money is involved? Unfortunately money and greed changes everything and children are left heart-broken.

 Child displacement is a huge thing; it is the epitome of all children’s problem. It is more obvious during important holidays such as Christmas.

 I would not want to have a project that will serve only Africans, or African-Americans or Caucasian or Latino groups, but I would rather choose a random topic that wills impacts all children globally.

 I know that there are millions of children displaced all over the world, According to United Nations, Around the globe, an estimated 11.2 million to 13.7 million children have been internally displaced as a result of armed conflict. Forced displacement uproots children and youths at a time when their lives most need stability.

For me Christmas never gave me joy, while I was still living in Africa as I always felt like a castaway thinking the problems were never going to end. Now my other sisters could not go home because step brothers and sisters do not work well in Africa as it works in other cultures.


I cannot say that I have a particular family tradition that I still remember. I know why we celebrate Christmas. Christmas should not bring sadness to any child. Cry if it`s worth crying for.  I learned the true meaning of Christmas by seeing how generosity became a passion. I learned by visiting charities and having secret Santas for my own children. I have learned about the full meaning of Christmas.

1 Christmas is not about sweating about all the little things . It is about the little children as I have watched them in their little events.

 2 It was not even about the gift, but how everyone will go out of their ways to wrap a gift to a child that they do not have to. By doing that, they made children, their families feel very good. I also noticed that people gave with all their hearts, and did not show everybody that they are helping the next person unlike where I came from where people will announce their gift before one even get it. In Africa, some rich people will take advantage of these young little girls in exchange of a gift which was even not the true meaning of Christmas.

 3 I learn that Christmas is living like Christ, making a home safe for all children unlike how  I  felt growing up.  When I began to write, I knew I would be into charity works. I would love to go into charity works. Nobody had benefited in this country, more than myself. I have gotten free education, free gift, other things probably I should not have.

 My charity will focus on children especially the young adult.  I will rather see a child develop his or her own identity, create a learning environment that will guide him or her  properly, but I will also like to look into those kids that are having a hard time in their homes; displacement.

 But my strength is using what I know that works to help a child figure out  ways  to help him or herself,than getting stuck with a system that does not really position children to be self-independent.

I think giving out yearly toys to children, whether those kids are rich or poor will be an ideal project knowing how those gifts changed the dynamics of our home. Those Christmas gifts have become part of my own family tradition, and brought happiness to our children.  Not that they depend on it, but it has become part of a family tradition that will change as they grow older. This state has  opened my eyes to the ways I saw charity. There are good and wonderful people who help children, families and military families in other lands.

In the end, home plate for the holidays. There will be no Christmas without charity. However, this is a cause that has bothered me and other children but I will focus on  long-term goal while charity and giving gift will be an ideal project. Home should accommodate and not displace. I have always make it about others but I will focus on  giving gifts to children more. I have  always known as a child that Christmas is not all about all the things that I knew then as a child. I think everyone has an obligation to make the next person`s life worth living. As an emotional writer, I write about what I am passionate about. I also write about what scares me for other people. I do not write about what makes me strong unfortunately.

What kind of family tradition do you have? what  do you think that children need most during this season?

Comparing The lives Of Two Icons: Mandela And Princess Diana As Their Lives Parallel

A Billy Joel Song says, “Only The Good Die Young, Is that the case? Consider Nelson Mandela and Princess Diana for instance. Maybe that is a slight way to debunk Billy Joel`s song even when we had seen many good people die young. At some point it began to feel a lot like it, as many young people continued to die over the years. But an artist like Billy Joel knows better, or honestly, there is some truth to the song as it is relatable. It is a well-crafted song whether you have lost someone or not

But the recent loss of Mandela at the age of 95 shows how fragile life is and how unpredictable it is too because we never know when one is to die (parts of the unknown).In reality, too, we are also accustomed to seeing the deaths of too many young people who had helped solidify that only the good die young. But Mandela was a good man, selfless, kind too, and was very forgiving, which earned him admiration. But he didn’t die young. It is not easy to ignore what has just happened and be tempted to compare Diana and Mandela, but we can`t ignore them as both their lives parallel each other.

They were both good people with extraordinary power to create peace around themselves. They are revolutionaries. Ironically, they both vacated the most prestigious places on their terms after they found out it would no longer serve its purpose. They were both separated in their marriages before the final divorces. Mandela evidently asked for separation from his wife of 32 years, while Prince Charles in Diana’s case asked for separation from her.

They were both marred with scandals as the news of their infidelities created the most attention. Both these two individuals are both loved globally; they both suffered rejection both in their lives and relationships. They were divorced, felt unloved, and at one point felt that they had no need to marry, just to stay married. One died young while the other died at a ripe age of 95. But in the end, both of these deaths taught us lessons and each death brought pain ( in the case of Diana) and happiness that is so unbelievable ( Mandela’s death).They are not Americans by birth or by naturalization, yet their stories were read and celebrated In America more than any other place in the world. Why? Because this is a country that has helped so many poor people all over the world. This is the world capital for humanity.

As revolutionaries: Diana helped change the British monarchy by how they conducted its affairs with the general public. Before Diana, their affairs was  conducted privately. Not so much was known about them, but all that changed when Diane saw herself in a lonely palace where there was less visitations. In her own words, Diana said about her children, “I have taken the children to all sorts of areas where I’m not sure anyone of that age in this family has been before. And they have knowledge they may never use, but the seed is there and I hope it still grows, because knowledge is power”. (Donnelly 58). But do not worry Diana; we know that your children are using the seed you planted. She also put a human face to humanity. She alleviated people`s sufferings as she related to her own pains. She created a new legacy. Meanwhile, Mandela created awareness about the Apartheid; he brought his people out from sufferings, and gave it the attention it deserved. He transformed South Africa. His efforts helped to erase more memories about Apartheid and welcomed and embraced the new, now widely known South Africa. Without Mandela, the world would not have known so much about South Africa and Apartheid.   

Ironically, they both relinquished their duties. Mandela as a great man of conscience voluntarily left the office in 1999 after one term in office because he wanted to make sure that South African democracy did not descend into a personality cult; he did it for his people and the world.

In another kind or relinquishing her duties and moving on from royal palace in general. By the end of 1993,the strain was genuine and Diana was at a low ebb. It was then she shocked her admirers by announcing her withdrawal from  much public life and her role as the figure head of many charities ( Donnelly 63) . Diana did not necessarily enjoy what was happening in Kensington Palace. Her unhappiness was creating distraction to the royal households as she tried desperately to fit into the family. When  she felt that her presence was not needed anymore.  She started missing the dinner parties; she led a lonely existence, and occasionally she would go to high cinema at high Kensington. But most especially, Diana cherished the time that she would spend in private with her sons, free from the pressures of public engagements, if not from the attention of photographers, according to Peter Donnelly.

My blog today will take a look at the sadness that overcame the world in 1997 when Diane died and compared it with the happiness that we all felt when Nelson Mandela died on Thursday December 5th. There is nothing wrong with having those conflicting feelings, and I will tell you why. The world was still moving when The Blessed Theresa of Calcutta, aka Mother Theresa died, in 1997.There was pain when John F. Kennedy died on Nov, 22 1963, when Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, and the list goes on. But unlike anything we had seen globally, Both Diana`s and Mandela`s deaths brought tears and happiness that were equally shared. In Diana `s there were tears because of her untimely death then, because of what she could have done more, and she was a mother of two little children. And finally, the world did not have time to tell her how much she was loved. For Mandela, people celebrated his death because he has finished his job here on earth. He has grown up kids, and he had the opportunity to be loved, and he did.

How The world took Notice Of These Two Individuals.

Diana was first introduced to the world in 1981 when she married Prince Charles. A lot happened in her marriage, but we began to notice Diana when she became public about the state of her marriage. She captured our hearts with her humility. Her own rejection led her to her own humanitarian work. She became known globally for her work all over the world. Yet Diana recovered from adversity to capture the hearts of people all over the world. And that triumph was not due to wealth or power or title, but to qualities that lay within – qualities for which she was universally adored with an innate ability to understand, and emphasize with, ordinary people, the desperately sick, the rejected, and the unloved. (Donnelly1).

On the other hand, Mandela became known when he spent 24 years in a prison for his role in Apartheid in South Africa. He later became the face of Apartheid; clamoring for peace in a world that was so broken. Mandela was a revolutionary, a politician and philanthropist who served as President of South Africa from 1994 to 1999. He moved from being incarcerated, to becoming the President of South Africa, to humanitarian, and his admission to the things that he was not good at made us like him. He came out with all the love and attention going to his personal life. Most especially he was an imperfect man who admitted his faults. He won the hearts of millions of people which later transformed him to an Icon.

 Although Mandela went to a real prison and spent 24 years in jail, but in a different kind of cell, Diana felt like she was in a prison. To her, living in a palace feels like a prison, “She had this great urge to go out and meet real people. Of course, she could have a private gym in the palace, but the palace felt a bit like a prison”( Donnelly 44).

Both Mandela and Diana went through rough times and felt so empty at one point in their lives. Diana at one point felt rejected, unloved, and left heartbroken. “I always had my doubts about how he really felt. There was never anything too concrete for me to grab a hold of, “Diana said about how unloved she felt. Her suspicion was right as she went from a loving princess to an abandoned princess. She did not hide her feelings too. In her own words, “I had this feeling that something wasn`t right, “One minute I was a nobody. The next minute I was a Princess of Wales. It was just too much for one person to handle”, (Donnelly 28).Like Diana, Mandela too felt unloved and wanted out of the marriag.According to him, he did not want to stay married for the sake of being married. The judge listened to him, and granted him divorce from Winnie even when she had objected to the idea of divorce. Like Diana, Mandela divorced in 1996 when he claimed that he was unfaithful to Winnie; he was having an affair with a colleague..

Mandela, just like Diana, was loved by all, the world, and their respective countries of origin. Mandela was viewed as a very humble man. His sense of humor was admirable. He always made his presence felt wherever he went. He never hides his true self and he was relatable. On the other hand, Diana was more than a pretty face, she was humble too. She was relatable probably through her own hardship as her love life became a tabloid story; with her, every story draws more pity. More love from people. As people watched  glued to their TV. Diana became the people’s princess despite all that she went through. Even when the world knew about her infidelity, yet no one cared. Everyone wanted to make sure she was okay. People wanted to see her everywhere she went.

Both Mandela and Diana divorce ended in divorce. Diana was married in July 1981 and had the final divorce in 1996. Mandela was married for 32years Like Diana, Mandela divorced in 1996 when he claimed that he was unfaithful to Winnie; he was having an affair with a colleague. Like both of them, their different affairs never hurt their images. He remained the people’s man diva meaning father, while Diane became the people’s princess. They both received accolades from all over the world. Even their personal life stories did nothing to them as the world wanted more of Mandela and less of Winnie, the same way the world had nothing to do with Prince Charles up until today. They both had an affair, a divorce.

What We Learned From Their Deaths,

But such a huge death will not go unnoticed. In August 1997, Diana`s death brought so much pain and some people still feel the pain until today. I saw how distraught people were, including me. Her death brought so much sadness as people had no time to even say good bye. I remember in 1997 thinking I wish I was more visible in my community while I was growing up. I began to appreciate what it means to make time for other people, which is an important lesson. Her death taught many people a lesson which goes from how I can get better at what I do. This human kindness was a key lesson that was boldly written. But no, it wasn’t. I spent another three days witnessing the anger, and sadness that was so unimaginable to console the grief and the heart broken. She died too young. Yet her death taught every one of us so much.

The death of Mandela yet has reactivated this act of selflessness, the humanity part in all of us that speaks and looks for peace even in an uncomfortable situation. The image around the world was that of joy; it brought joy to my soul, a different kind of feeling that went beyond human comprehension. This is also from the idea of connecting globally. There were happy faces, just like when Diana died, all the national TV stations carried the news, but the image of happiness on people was so unbelievable. I went home thinking, “What happened?” He was a good man. He was old, and he was a humanitarian. I guess not only the good die young. As we celebrate the life of Mandela, there is also so much to learn.

Lessons Beyond

Diana taught us that you can still be visible and be respected .On the other hand, Mandela went from adversity, from 24 years in prison, from living in isolation, to becoming a peace maker. Mandela taught us about forgiveness, acceptance, and creating peace even in the most difficult places. He learned to trust. He was able to move from adversity to victory.

For all who believe in humanity, Thursday, Dec 5th when Mandela died was a winning day for all. It was a day to remember, and most especially, it has opened more opportunities for people to continue to strive so hard for just a common core of peace. It is real and one could feel it; regardless of how unclose or close one is to reality. I know how serious the media`s role could play here. The media goes as our nation goes, the pride that came from Nelson Mandela`s death was so reflective and will remain for a long time. It was so much pride to witness the global unity once more.

His death would have brought so much pain to the community. But his death is creating more aware ness for global tolerance, the peace that is so much needed in the world today. Even though his death does not belong to the song that Billy Joel wrote because we now know that the good don`t always die young, Mandela was humanity. At last, there were celebrations, hope, peace, and harmony. It brought in a global connection and a different kind of death.

Depending on time and place, the world is closer, bigger, and celebrations differ. Who would have thought that the death of Mandela would have brought so much happiness, instead of sadness, and unity instead of division? I guess once in a lifetime a uniter comes to the world.

While Diana`s death taught us a lesson in humility, a lesson to be who you are. A lesson of understanding that a little hand can go a long way in helping the next person. On the other hand, Mandela also taught us that the world is watching. He led by example. He taught us to have a conscience in everything we do. Without a conscience, he would have fallen in love with power. He taught us a wonderful lesson of forgiveness. I overheard a man talking about how the British tortured them for years, but that is not what humanity does. Humanity will move away from envy, jealousy and hatred, and get to the point of vulnerability. Without forgiveness, an open heart, the world could not and would not have had success in this effort of global connection. You can step out and be that pillar who can lead people. In everything you do.

Unlike Diana, Mandela was so fortunate and had opportunities over and over when people told him how much he was loved. Most revolutionaries never have those opportunities. At least he knows that he was beloved before his death, unlike Diana, who wasn`t sure especially as her life was cut very short. But like Diana too, we have seen many young people die heartbroken, and without knowing that they are loved.

Just like Diana, Mandela`s death has become a global affair, read and heard all over the world. Like Diana, instead of experiencing the similar pain we felt in 1997, we are now experiencing a celebration too. As we are all glued to TV, we watch people all over the world celebrate his legacies. I hope we have peace, kindness, and more tolerance among all in a broken and yet hopeful world. How do you want to be remebered?.


Shortcuts And Why It Should Be Avoided? Understanding Childhood And Poverty

If you listen well, what causes poverty in children is so many. Often times due to some parents’ lack of education and strong discipline, children fail short in their own potential. The idea to quit school or not to quit school starts creeping in.Then grows as time progresses. The harder the school materials become, the easier for them to quit (the importance of early childhood education).

As parents, there is so much in parenting that makes or does not make sense, especially when things like education become overwhelming to them. Sadly, when things get tough along the way, students start to make up excuses why they will no longer continue if they started to struggle earlier in academics. Things get worse too when they find companionship with some of their buddies. To them nothing about school makes life worth it. They make a mockery of college graduates. They fall asleep on a good couch while dreaming about a million bucks.

At least now, there is no road to shortcuts. It is what it is. Shortcuts because of its disadvantages create agonies, uneasiness in children, and adults in particular. To reduce the number of students who dropout each year, what a parent sees is different from what outsiders see. Parents should see it coming.

With boys, they are content with what they have by getting a job at the nearest fast food place. The problem is that getting a job at a fast place is only good when one is young and or if you are the manager later on. My first job was at C,C you heard it right. There was always some sort of dysfunction going on. Everyone was a manager, literally. The money is low and does not have any purchasing power. As a young person, you cannot feed yourself and your family with the money coming from there not that it is not possible but it is hard.

With girls, they tend to replace their education with raising children. But the problem is that when those kids start to grow, they will need you to help them, but a modern day high school dropout cannot do so much regardless of how much conviction you have. Surviving is no longer based on conviction but by actions.

Our ambition will be to get them to know what happens when shortcuts happen. I think the idea for everyone  now is to make them stay, find incentives that could make them stay, is it an understatement to term a shortcut a very simple version of life? It means short-term goals. What do you do after you drop out of school? Does it solve any problems? No, probably not. At least, according to Coleman,college board president  At the university of Georgia , who was  emphasizing that despite the rising costs in student loan yet  ”

College education is one of the best investments students and their families can make in terms of health, income, and upward mobility”.

The hardest thing for anyone to do is easy to create a fast moving life in a very short period of time. What happens at the end will leave you helpless. Before you go through it, think about all the time you will have to waste. Think about the frustrations; think about coming close but failing short. At the end you will have more time to waste. You will also have time to become angry at life at every menial job you have, knowing how annoying it becomes. You do not want to live every moment with regret, Life is precious; do not waste it.

In reality, it is easy to imagine a big house, a big car, and even a very big neighborhood in our heads, the fasciation that goes with a new car becomes enormous directly making some students rethink schooling. But remember that it takes a lot of sacrifices to get there. You just do not get it with just a thought process; rather, it involves plans and efforts which do not come through shortcuts.

You cannot sabotage your school for your immediate satisfaction. You cannot make a living by working in low paid job; don’t get me wrong. And not that people are still not doing it  but take out time and ask them how they are doing, What do you get by working there? You work with people that will find it easy to manipulate you. They make you think you have an issue. They are all over the place; my question is why would you sacrifice your comfort for a job that makes you uneasy?

Discovering the truth when you drop out:

1 Dropping out is so easy, but you will end up in a job that will make you more frustrated. The expectations are always too much. Most of those supervisors will not give you any opportunity to explain yourself. Remember you are working with people that could care less about if you lose your job or not. They want you to be fired, and they are not hiding their feelings about it. You are set up to fail. So please make use of your time while you are still young.

2 Dropping give you hours to work, but your family will be suffering as you walk longer and longer hours with no end at sight. Now technology has changed the way we see things. At that too, studying one subject or being a master of one job is no longer a fashion.  Not to brag, but I started with journalism. I took general studies in college, ended up with business administration, studied sociology and literature, and spent 3 years doing science. I am still in college; that is why nothing moves me. You have to be able to prove that you can survive in a job which requires so much now. Let them laugh at you all they want, but knowledge is power.

3 “Do you know what I hate”? You may not save any money to take a vacation. I never had one either but at least there is hope.  You will always need to pay your house bill first. The same job will exhaust you, keep you in a cycle, take you out of your rhythm, and make you irrelevant. But those can be changed now. What are other ways to avoid shortcuts?

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